Posted April 19, 2008

Bridgette Hajicek

“The Only Truly Flawless Diamond in the World”
—Written two weeks after I met Bridgette

Finding someone who you can love entirely, is like finding the combination to a permutation lock, with a long row of rotating disks that you must turn until you find the right combination of values.  Values are those things that are important to us relative to other characteristics.  Each person has a different combination of values, and there are multiple disks or variables, such that it is improbable that I could find someone with the exact same combination as me.

But there is still a mathematical possibility that on occasion, when you spin the dials randomly, you could still hit upon the right combination.  I did that two weeks ago, and found a perfect solution of values when I was not even looking.  I was left alone for a lapsing moment during a conversation with a friend, and there was the combination, a breathtaking woman who knew every secret of my heart before I told her.

Now, I know that this is simplistic.  We are each complex individuals, and nobody is exactly alike another.  But the combination lock is made up of our integral values, which are those that we prize the most highly.
 
All people do not all have the same values, because we each have different environmental experiences.  I often go to an auction and outbid everyone on a rare book that I value more highly than the underbidder, or any other bidder.  There are even certain books for which I regularly set world record prices.  At the same auction, there will be other books that go for exorbitant prices and I do not bid at all, as they have no value to me.  There are many beautiful and high quality women in the world, who do not interest me.

If someone does not share my values, or prioritize them the same way as I do, then they do not value what I feel are my greatest strengths.  If I value the same values that you have, then I desire them more than most people do, and you are worth more to me than you are to someone else.  My values are recognized by some people as extraordinary, while other people do not recognize my values at all.  There are women who have professed to love me, who could not name any of my most precious qualities as I personally valued them, and I knew that it was therefore not a fair trade.

But when I find the girl with the perfect combination, love begins immediately.  In a way, I have loved her all of my life.  Her virtues are the same as those that I prayed for when I was eleven years old.  She is an exact fit.  As I continue to learn new details about her every day, I am intrigued at how many of my medium values are also falling closely into place, as they are consistent with the higher values in the same quality of person.  Her main unknown traits were predictable after our first conversation.

For me, she is the only truly flawless diamond in the world.  Her value to me is above the price of rubies.  In rare book acquisitions, there are some things that historians recognize as having immeasurable value, such that there is no way to quantify the value.  They are irreplaceable, and indispensable.  When it is the right woman, she is priceless.  We are commanded to love her, cherish her, and protect her; more than we would our most valuable treasures.

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